How I got Rid of my Sex Addiction

Email To a Friend 06 June 2009 My obsession with sex almost destroyed my 5 year marriage. At first, my wife and I have had a pretty exciting sex life. We would have sex at least once a day. As we have become more successful in our professional lives, we started seeing less of each other. My wife would come home exhausted and I would badger her for sex. That’s all I could think about.

Although we both worked 12 hour days, we managed to have sex three times a week. It became difficult to conceal my desires to have sex more often. I started visiting sex shops on my lunch breaks, strip clubs after work, and even sought extra-marital affairs with my assistant. I always believed that I had a pretty normal sex drive and desired my wife, but later found that I needed more. I never wanted to hurt my wife, but one day I confessed to her that I was having an affair with my colleague at work and was visiting clubs to get my fix for sex. She left me and stayed at her mother’s house for a month. I called, left numerous voicemails each day and even more emails. I wondered if she could ever find in her heart to forgive me.

I showed up at her work anticipating the end of her shift. I apologised and told her that I would do anything to make the marriage work. She advised me that if I could prove my sincerity to her that she would stick by me through my shortcomings. After long talks and extensive research on the internet, I enlisted a marital counseling expert for us both and she has since moved back in. Are relationship hasn’t completely recovered but the counseling is definitely helping us reconcile our differences and my weaknesses. Since the counseling, I have changed jobs, and tried to make a fresh start. I have been referred to our local priest for spiritual counseling. All is well now. Spiritual counseling helps me to cultivate the discipline to honor my wife and our commitment. With marital counseling, I am able to love my wife exclusively and restore her faith in me. Even though it was a struggle to get over sudden and constant urges for sex, I think I have give it a good go and am so happy with the progress so far.

Anonymous, Burnley.

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